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Today’s blog post is brought to you by a guest solo travel blogger. Neither me or Andrzej has travelled solo before, so we thought it best to seek out a story from someone who does have extensive experience in travelling solo. Amy has travelled around the world for around 17 years, a lot of which has been solo trips, this is her story and we hope you enjoy the post!
The Truth about Solo Travel and Relationships
by Guest Blogger | Amy Trumpeter
Isn’t it great experiencing the freedom and liberty of solo travel? There is nothing more amazing than wondering from one destination to the other, not really having a particular path in mind. And all you have to worry about is the belongings of your backpack and how to reach the next destination. It’s even better if you can do all this as a digital nomad, earning money on the road.
Town of Ouarzazate – Morocco (Photo Credit: Alexander Cahlenstein – Flickr)
Love on the Road
That travel lifestyle can’t last forever, can it? For some people, maybe it can. Meeting the love of your life doesn’t mean that you have to give up the travel lifestyle.
Many couples travel together and become lifelong partners on the road. Family travel is now very popular, and backpacking with your kids is the done thing.
But, what if your partner doesn’t do the travel thing? What if they want to…erm…settle down?!?!
In Love but Solo on the Road!
Picture this…you hit thirty and you still think you are unstoppable. You’ve got the travel blog thing going on and have a great online following. You’ve travelled extensively, maybe with South America still left on your list.
Amy at Ait Benhaddou, Ouarzazate, Morocco
But things have started to become serious with the love of your life. The love of your life who has a steady job in a quite city back home, and wants the house in the suburbs. Hmmm…..these lifestyles don’t quite match up, do they?
The Truth About Solo Travel
People rarely speak the truth about solo travel. Many travellers gloss over the reality of the loneliness with social media images of parties, beaches and amazing architecture. Amy in Pushkar, India
In truth, solo travel can be challenging, and yes, it can get lonely. This is particularly the case when you have a partner back home who can’t get time off work to accompany you during your travels.
It almost becomes a double edged sword, where you miss one without the other. When you’re travelling, you miss your partner on your solo trips. When you’re back home with your partner, you crave life on the road.
One thing’s for sure…you should never resent the other person in your relationship, or stop each other from living the lives you truly want to lead.
Pushkar Lake (Photo Credit: Arian Zwegers – Flickr)
Finding Compromise as a Digital Nomad
I have traveled on and off for the last 17 years of my life. Sometimes solo, sometimes with friends or family, sometimes for months on end. It’s not something I’m ready to give up in hurry.
But, I am very much in love with my boyfriend of 10 years, and I am committed to making the relationship work long term. He enjoys his job as a scientist and bought a lovely house in the beautiful city of York.
So, life is not just about the geographical journeys anymore, it’s about the journey of the relationship too. It’s also about learning the real meaning of love, compromise and support.
Digital Nomads with ‘settled’ Partners – does it really work?
Does it work? Being a digital nomad with a partner back home? I mean, does it really work? I think that truly depends on the two people involved – how much they love each other, and how they can make their lives compliment each other and work together.
I do travel and I still love to write my travel blog. I am also very happy in my relationship. Sometimes we miss each other a lot, especially if I am away for more than a few weeks at a time, but that’s ok and we have accepted it as part of being who we are.
Life may no longer be an endless backpacking journey. It’s now about having a base and travelling from there on a series of shorter trips. But, now I can come back to some security and the love of my life. Oh, and we just had an amazing week together in Barcelona!
Barcelona (Photo Credit: Lutor44 – Flickr)
10 Tips for your Relationship when you can’t shake the Travel Bug!
Things may change regarding your digital nomad lifestyle as you get older or as a relationship deepens, and that’s normal. If you are in a relationship with someone who doesn’t travel as extensively as you, just take a few of these tips to help you…
1. Don’t book trips without considering your partner, that really is unreasonable. Remember that when you are in a partnership, these decisions no longer only affect you.
2. Be honest and open about the kind of lifestyle that you want – bottling things up doesn’t help and isn’t healthy.
3. Try to take a combination of some trips together as a couple and some trips solo. You can do things together that are on your partners bucket list, as they have a limited time off work. As a digital nomad, you are less geographically restricted and can take solo trips for some places on your own bucket list.
4. Embrace buying a house together and see it as a base to work from, not as a ‘prison’ or a drastic change in lifestyle. A house can enable rather than restrict (no more storage units!!!). Maybe get a house near an airport if possible! 😉 You can also rent out your house in the future to fund your travels together.
5. Find out if your partner is allowed to have a career break or sabbatical so that you can take a longer trip together without it effecting his or her career.
6. Take long weekends away together. Also, try to time your busy travel missions when you partner will be busy at work. Planning and timing is crucial.
7. Make sure that your partner is ok with where you are going. You have a responsibility to yourself and the people who love you to keep safe.
8. Make use of social media and Skype to keep in touch when you are away. What’s app is also a great way to send free messages.
9. If you are going to be based somewhere for a long period of time, book a hotel for your partner to join you halfway through.
10. Make decisions out of love, and not fear. That means out of love for yourself, as well as love for your partner.
Just remember that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about your relationship, lifestyle or family life. Do what suits you, and don’t let others judge. Is it ok to pop your baby in a papoose and backpack through Thailand? If it’s ok for both of you, then it’s ok!
More about Amy
Hi, I'm Amy, a social media marketer, teacher and traveller with a lust for life. After travelling from Moscow to Beijing on the trans-siberian and volunteering with genocide survivors in Rwanda, I decided it was time to quit my job and set up my own business to work my way around the world. Follow me as I explore temples and search for paradise, while teaching others to work remotely and do the same!